Thursday, March 3

Visit to the Center: Part 2

Our visit to the center was very emotional, to say the least. Not only were we in such a wonderful place...this was where Eli spent the first four years of his life. We also knew that leaving was going to be very difficult, both for Eli and for the nannies. Up until the visit, he really hadn't cried much (other than getting hurt) because we continued to see Hannah every day and he didn't seem to realize that he wasn't returning.

After the nannies fixed us a (wonderful) local lunch with pita type pockets filled with meat, sauce, and vegetables, we got together for a group picture and then got ready to leave. The nannies gave us many things....a hard board book that they had made with Eli's pictures in it, a professional looking picture that was made not too long ago, his baby records, books and markers that he uses, and several other things. It was clear that they loved him as they told us his favorite things to eat, when he slept, how he slept and many other details. They had him show us things they had taught him (and he is one smart kiddo), had him count to 10 in chinese and to 4 in english, and showed us how they taught him to jump.

We left after several pictures and one of the nannies carried him to the car. When she turned to put him in, I realized she was crying and any effort I made to control it fell apart. He cried for the first time as well and has since told Hannah that he misses that nanny. He says that he is her (the nanny's) son.

Last night, when Hannah left us, he cried more. He was okay in the room for a while and then brought us his coat and shoes and hat. When we told him no, he eventually cried himself to sleep, calling for the nannies. Even though I knew that things would be tough and this would likely happen, it is a whole different ball game when you are dealing with the reality of it. It is heartbreaking.

Today we visited the hospital where he had his surgery and had lunch at Hannah's place. That will have to be another post in itself.....later, when I get another chance to be on the computer.

Eli's bed where he slept (holding a pillow I sent for him)

the entire group of us

Eli with a buddy in the kitchen, waiting for lunch to be served to the adults

This is the nanny whom he calls out for the most.


  1. How sad for him and the nannies, yet how wonderful that he was loved and cared for. You'll get through and so will he. Praying for him and all of you.

  2. It breaks my heart that he and the nannies had to experience this sadness, but it shows how much love was given to him during the first 4 years of his life. Your Dad and I will continue praying for all of you. God will see you through this transition. Don't worry about your kids at home - between the two sets of Grandparents, they are being showered with hugs and kisses and lots and lots of love. We love you,
    Mom and Dad

  3. Happy Birthday to you Heather. We love and miss you. Can't wait to see all of you on Friday, 3/11/11

    With all our love to our birthday girl,
    Mom and Dad

  4. Happy Birthday Heather!! I just loved being able to chat with you online while you were at the center. I knew it would be very hard for all of you at the time of parting. The bittersweet egde of adoption. You are an inspiration to me. It will soon be my turn, and I will cherish all you share that will help us with our transition. Bless you all. It is wonderful to know just how loved Eli was by his nanny. Big Hugs!

  5. Happy Birthday Heather!! My heart was breaking reading that! Praying that each day gets easier until he realizes how much you already love him and how blessed he is to be a part of the Meyer family!
    I love you and can't wait to see you guys!

  6. Praise God that he is so attached to his nanny and others at the center. While it will may make these next few days rough, it will make the rest of his life so much better as you know he has the capacity to give and receive love. Hold on to that sister.

    Praying you home. Wow - you have FOUR kids. Four adorable kids I might add.